Just Walked Down the Aisle...

It is an inevitable event in a (wo)man's life.... The one which they say happens in heaven... But like one wise person said, so does thunder and lightning.... So very true....

Like all people who try their hand in writing, and like they all do, I also would like to quote a few good words which are not my creation, but is definitely borrowed...

Marriage is like a magic circle... Those who are outside it wants to get in and those who are inside it wants to get out.... Not something of a comment you would expect from someone who is married only for just over a month... But like I said before, those words are not mine... Just borrowed ones... ;-)

Guys, I don't want to get into my story of married life, but just a reflection of what is the ground reality when you've just taken the plunge... I know there are veterans in this licensed live-in agreement and will have more to share and more to reflect than I do... but lets just say I am doing it cos I salute that concept of marriage....

What is marriage? Is it complete license to do what we boys always wanted to do without anyone asking what the hell you are doing??? Well… not completely true… (Although partly it is… ;-) Cos like they say – Sex is the price woman has to pay for marriage and marriage is the price man have to pay or sex.)

Marriage according to a definition is surrendering yourself completely to your partner, and taking his/her hand and pledging to love him/her unconditionally and trusting her / him (as you trust your mother when she said who your father is…) with your heart, mind and soul and promising to be the person he / she fell in love with (at some point in time if at all she /he did) till time everlasting…. (Hey this was not borrowed…)

People ask me how is married life…. I want to say it on their face you can't reply to it in one answer. Though it is not that complicated, it's not that easy either… You feel suddenly grown up, you fell attached like you've never felt before, and you feel that sense of responsibility suddenly waking up from its life long hibernation….. I won't say that you feel old. Cos like they say – You are as old as the woman you feel… ;-) What I am going to say is purely my view, and there maybe arguments and counter arguments… and I am welcome for all…

Getting married is a wonderful thing as we have someone we truly believe is completely ours – a friend, a companion, a debate partner… But never think of her / him as an adversary, though there might be people who say Marriage is the only war where you get to sleep with the enemy.

Marriage is a unique concept which agrees with the law of nature that all balances out to a state of equilibrium – you will have moments of highs and lows, of happiness and sorrow, of accomplishment and failure, of acceptance and dejection. But what makes it special and worth all the trouble is the feeling that you get when you come up from a pit – that's when you really forget all the sad things, and you have a chest-full of memories to take along with you for the rest of your life. And both are in a real good mood, then making up is definitely worth it if it happens over a weekend. ;-)

Marriage is definitely a challenge. Two people from two different spheres coming together to take their lives and dreams jointly forward. And the key is to fall in love over and over again with the person you decided to spend the rest of your life with. The key is to keep the temperature high, though there might be people who say that Getting married is like getting into a bath tub; after you get used to it, it isn't so hot.

Marriage is not about going half way and waiting for the other person to do the same. It's about going all the way. That ways you walk together a great distance. Marriage is not about finding someone who completes you, but about finding someone to share your incompleteness. Marriage is not about adjustments. It's about compromise. It's about acceptance. True love is not changing yourself for the one you love, but it's about learning to live together happily with the partner, accepting his/her drawbacks as if they are our own, and marching together, holding hands towards the horizon of life.

If anyone who read this feels that I am not happy being married, then I have to learn English all over again, cos that is the last thing on my mind. I feel marriage was one of the best things that happened in my life – though too early to say ;-). And the feeling of sharing life with someone you love is the best thing that can happen to anyone. And if you feel that you have not experienced it, try this…

Love as if you are living the last day in this world. Cherish each moment as if time is running out fast. Cos life can't be taken for granted. We never know how long we are here in this journey here…. Live and have no repents. Love as you want to be loved. Care as you want to be pampered… and life will never be the same…

I guess this has not turned out to be a chapter from Mills and Boons. If you found it boring or offensive, please feel free to delete this.

Blissfully married A b